College and the Emergency Room (ER)

Over the course of this past year, I’ve had two different surgeries. In March, I had an ileocecal resection, and an ileostomy takedown in May. For my surgery in March, I was in the middle of the second semester of my freshman year (I conveniently ended up in the hospital right before spring break), and my surgery in May was right after final exams. I thought I would record my experiences both with the Emergency Room, and with Surgeries while being in college, as well as provide any tips if any of you find yourselves in these unfortunate situations.

I had been having intense pain (to the point of being unable to walk) in the lower left quadrant of my abdomen for two whole days before going to the emergency room. I told myself I could put up with the pain, take acetaminophen to calm it down, and generally just try to put it in the back of my head. This was my first mistake. When the acetaminophen isn’t calming the pain for as long as its supposed to, or not breaking it at all, it’s time to go to the Emergency Room. I bet that if I had gone to the ER when I realized that I couldn’t manage my pain on my own, I wouldn’t have been in such bad shape when I got to the ER.

Luckily, the ER was relatively close to my dorm (I took an Uber there, freaking out the driver in the process). However, make sure you have a way to get to the hospital quickly if the need arises. Once I got there, I registered and they took me into pediatrics. Don’t try to be brave and tell them you’re in less pain than you’re actually in. Your body is being damaged by the fact that you’re withstanding immense amounts of pain, so don’t underreport the pain you’re in. The doctors generally won’t give you more painkillers than you actually need. Don’t put up with the pain if you’ve been given painkillers and they’ve done nothing, either. Sure, some painkillers take 20 to 30 minutes to kick in, but if time has passed and you’re still feeling the same pain, tell your nurse. Nurses are your best resources in the Emergency Room. When I had my first surgery, we quickly discovered that morphine does nothing for my pain, but I only reported this to anyone after two days of putting up with full fledged post-surgery pain.

Being in the emergency room for the first time by yourself is definitely daunting. You have to fill out a bunch of medical forms, and possibly make decisions about your own well being while you’re there, decisions you may be unused to making. Tell your closest friends that you’re in the hospital so you have someone there with you. I was in too much pain when I got to the Emergency Room to talk to my parents or try to text them, so it was great to have a friend there for not only support, but also to help me out with contacting my family.

Don’t tell your parents that they can’t come if it seems like you’ll be there a while. Although you may feel like you can manage the situation yourself, it will be much better for both you and your parents’ emotional states if they’re there. Eventually, your friends have to go to class, and you’ll be by yourself. You want someone there to vouch for you when you don’t feel like you’re able to.

If it seems like you’ll be staying in the hospital, make sure you let your professors know. Make a group email with all of your professors’ emails and send them emails updating them on how you’re doing and how it looks like things are going to go. They’d much rather get a number of emails than be surprised when you don’t show up for three different classes. If they don’t know about your condition, tell them politely before explaining your current medical situation. Don’t be shy about this — most professors are willing to help you out in a situation like this.

If you had any packages you were going to have delivered like I did, you can usually email the shipping department and ask them to authorize a friend to pick them up for you. 

Also, let your RA know what’s going on. If your parents or friends need to get into your room to get you clothes or supplies, it’ll be convenient for your RA to know that.  They’re there to help you, whatever the situation.

If you’re coming to the emergency room and you have a doctor at the hospital you’re visiting, call your doctor’s office on your way there (if you can) or send them an email to make sure they call the emergency room before hand and explain some of your history/why you’re coming in. They can better prepare for you if they know you’re on your way, and your doctor can inform them as to any steps he/she wants to take when you get there. Plus, this can make triage and registration a lot faster.

Most importantly though, don’t be frightened. You can do this. The people in the hospital are there to help you. Finally going to the emergency room felt like a breath of relief for me, because it meant that I wasn’t the only one worrying about my health anymore, and that at least part of my suffering would be over soon.